Musing on some things I never assume

by | Feb 27, 2023 | Dogs & Other Creatures, Faith | 6 comments |

We never assume what the view might be moment to moment outside our windows here at Vanaprastha. Yesterday morning, we woke to fog, which lifted before we headed to church. But driving down the mountain road into the valley was another story. Rising above it again after summiting Afton Mountain, we looked across a white comforter blanketing the Rockfish Valley. I would have stopped at the scenic pull-out to take a picture, but we were already late because of another thing we never assume.

Never assume information is accurate

When people adopt dogs from a shelter, foster care, or rescue organization, they receive health records and information about previous owners, if any. Our first dog Heathcliff was adopted by a family who couldn’t take care of him, then bounced around and landed in the Alexandria shelter. His record said he did not like to go in the car. Oh yes, he did—always, from the first time we drove him home.

Freya was a problem dog, snippy and hard to place due to failed adoptions. We quickly discovered how smart she was—and sweet. And Cato? One of the shelter volunteers told us he was a runner, which you can see is far from the accurate. Mac seems to be a dedicated home-body, too. He’s house-trained, but we never assumed his adjustments wouldn’t need to be cleaned up, as happened yesterday morning—the reason why we were late.

Mac didn’t mean to mess in the house; he just lost it. Or as Paul wrote in Romans 7:15, I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. We get it, Mac, we really do. 

Never assume what I write is what I’ll do

One Tuesday morning before Bible study, our teacher walked up to me and said, “My husband and I watched the church service virtually last Sunday, and there was one piece where your flute was particularly lovely.”

All that I had written about how to receive a compliment graciously went out of my head. I blathered about how I didn’t control the sound recording, although my flute is miked. Then I made matters worse by saying I just picked out harmonies—there were no written parts. Finally, our teacher put me out of our misery.

“I know this is hard for you,” she said—she reads my blog, “but I’m trying to give you a compliment.” I sighed and nodded. …what I want to do I do not do…

“Yes, yes, you’re giving me a gift, and receiving well is another gift.” I put my hand on my heart. “Thank you. Thank you.”

Never assume Lent is only about darkness 

Last week, we marked the beginning of Lent with Ash Wednesday. Lent, a solemn time of fasting and prayer, repentance, sacrifice, and almsgiving, ends with the glorious celebration of Easter.

Lent is not only about darkness, for indeed, the English word Lent means “spring.” And we’re certainly seeing a lot of that here at Vanaprastha, as daylight savings time approaches. The springtime of Lent is an opportunity to give more time to God in prayer, give more to others, and practice more obedience. 

To clean out dead leaves and the wild honeysuckle choking our soon-to-flower shrubs. Never assume wildlife has no darkness. 

What things do you never assume?

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  1. Gary Fultz

    I need those kind of reminders often.

    • Carole Duff

      In some ways, we write to remind ourselves. Bless you, Gary!

  2. aschmeisser

    Yesterday they just turned up,
    a Heeler and a young Great Dane,
    each a charming happy pup,
    and I had to steel my brain
    to send a call to my dear wife
    working in the river-fogs
    that on this day our shared life
    would be enriched by two more dogs.
    Have to say, she took it well
    (though the ‘Dane’ part freaked her out),
    and I really have to tell
    that on her face I saw a pout
    when the guys’ human appeared
    and Barb lost what she hoped and feared.

    People abandon dogs on our mesa, and it’s a rarity for an owner to turn up, or return a call if the dog is chipped. So we have quite a few. They aren’t turned away.

    And yesterday it was foggy in the Rio Grande valley, where Barb works!

    • Carole Duff

      God bless you for giving abandoned dogs a home.

  3. bigskybuckeye

    Amen. I agree that our Lenten journey isn’t all about darkness. In the depths of our faith, we continue to follow the Light. Christ will show us the way.

    • Carole Duff

      Dear Richard, Thank you for your encouragement. May we follow the light during this Lenten season. -C.D.


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