oppositeofcertaintyWhile the remnants of hurricane Laura soaked the forest on Saturday morning, I sipped green tea and finished Janine Urbaniak Reid’s memoir The Opposite of Certainty. Reading about her brush with alcohol abuse in her teens and early twenties, I thought about the inactivity or useless activity some have noted on social media during these months of stay-at-home quarantine.

There’s plenty to do around here, so inactivity isn’t a problem. But I’ve turned off the bake oven and put away wine glasses, because useless activity is often self-indulgent and born out of a desire to control. And I’m already a control freak like Reid defaulted to after she quit drinking. What she could not control was her younger son’s brain tumor.

I have not been so sorely tested, at least not yet, thank God. But in some ways, all of us are facing the inactivity/useless activity/desire to control test now, as noted in Todd Brewer’s post on Mockingbird Ministries. Why go to school, get married, have children, or do anything during this time of uncertainty? Let’s just wait till this is all over and certainty returns; then we’ll get back to normal.


In 1939, the beginning of World War II in England, C.S. Lewis had this to say about certainty:

The war creates no absolutely new situation; it simply aggravates the permanent human situation so that we can no longer ignore it. Human life has always been lived on the edge of a precipice. Human culture has always had to exist under the shadow of something infinitely more important than itself. If [people] had postponed the search for knowledge and beauty until they were secure, the search would never have begun. We are mistaken when we compare war with “normal life.” Life has never been normal.

We have never been in control and never will be. If we suspend useful activity, we’ll likely substitute “a worse cultural life for a better,” and who isn’t seeing some of this happening now? But fixating on potential threats should not preclude other worthy pursuits.


As Jeremiah prophesied to Israel after the LORD carried them into exile from Jerusalem to Babylon: “Build houses and settle down; plant gardens and eat what they produce. Marry and have sons and daughters; find wives for your sons and give your daughters in marriage, so that they too may have sons and daughters. Increase in number there… Jeremiah 20:5-6a (NIV)

We may have a duty worth dying for, C.S. Lewis noted. But if we devote our entire lives to that duty and cease all other activities, the duty is not worth living for.


Reid discovered this truth as she gave full attention to her younger son’s life to the detriment of her health, marriage, and two other children. A duty worth dying for—she would have gladly given her life for her son’s—but not worth living for. With time, she learned to live in the present, one day at a time, as recovering alcoholics and recovering control freaks must learn.

Todd Brewer wrote: “Our lives may have been altered, but God remains the unchanged. Grace does not wait for the perfection conditions, but comes to us when we least expect it. As Lewis reminds us, ‘The present is the only time in which any duty can be done or any grace received.’ This time we have now is such a gift.”


P.S. Keith and I celebrated my birthday last week, with cake but sans wine. God is good.


  1. barefootlilylady

    A truth worth remembering: “I have never been in control and never will be.”

    Birthday blessings, albeit belated, dear Carole.

    • Carole Duff

      Thank you, Cindie! God bless you! -C.D.

  2. rubyfin

    Loved that you interwove CS Lewis thoughts of not allowing future threats to override useful pursuits and the idea of living in the present, God’s grace in one day at a time.

    • Carole Duff

      Thanks, Winston, but the credit mostly goes to Todd Brewer, writing on Mockingbird.

  3. Laurie

    What a beautifully written article, Carole. I loved your thoughts on control/activity. It very much hits home, especially during the pandemic. Learning that we are never in control is an important lesson to learn.

    • Carole Duff

      Thank you, Laurie. Peace be with you.

  4. Sue Love

    Happy belated birthday to you, Carole. Yes, these are troubled times, but God is good all the time, and he is still in control, and he has allowed it all for a purpose, and we need to keep on following him wherever he leads us. This is a wonderful time to be sharing Jesus Christ with others.

    • Carole Duff

      Thank you, Sue. God bless you. -C.D.

  5. Loved by the King of kings

    Our pastor preached on that passage in Jeremiah, I think it was just last week.
    Great points!
    I love your last paragraph, including the quotes by Brewer and Lewis.

  6. bigskybuckeye

    While some of our daily routines have been amended due to Covid, God’s routines continue as always. His Word nourishes our faith, and our buttressed faith opens our eyes to eternal hope.


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